Nothing drives me crazier than people who say “I don’t see color” when referring to a black friend. Obviously you see them…. If they wore a red shoe and a blue shoe everyday…..you certainly would see it….but as a friend…..you wouldn’t tease them or make a big deal out of it everyday. Same with “color”. You clearly see they don’t look like you…….but what you don’t do is point it out…..what you don’t do is make them feel different or out of place. They are your friend.
It’s also very interesting that when there is a minority in the group……its okay to venture into areas that look more like the majority…….but when its time to venture into an area that doesn’t look like them… you get the question “How bad would we stand out?”…..um….just about as bad as the minority in your group stands out. Uh oh…..I think you just saw “color”….
No matter how you slice it…..you see color before you know the person. You may judge them simply on their look…before they even open their mouth to speak. You don’t know what they sound like or where they come from….all you see is them.
If a child is taught at an early age to speak by a particular race of people……they learn to speak and imitate those that are teaching them. People think proper english sounds “white” and that is the acceptable language. Speak anything other than that…….Uh oh….here comes the color patrol…..in fact…you could be blind folded and name that color or race!!
There are some hilarious stereotypes of all races and ethnicities……being comfortable to talk about them amongst friends shows maturity and true friendship. Please don’t think that your black, mexican, or asian friends represent their entire race…..they don’t. They just so happen to fall into a category of rich historical culture that is a far better story to tell than most. Stories of racism, ignorant people and personal funnies that are far better than you can ever come up with!! They are embarrassed, outraged and passionate about their race….and for you to say…..I don’t see color….means you really don’t see them for the rich heritage, fabulous food, historical epithets and fabulous diversity they add to your life. They know you love them because you are their friend…….we all have something to share and learn.
Knowledge is power…..and the key to lasting friendships. Here’s to all the colors in the world….where is Benetton when you need them!!…People learn what they live…..and they live what they learn…..and they teach their children the same…..CHEERS!!!